Things to consider
For almost every adopted person, reunions can be frightening, emotional, but don’t worry a bit, these fears are very normal and very, very common.
Common fears
It is quite natural to develop some FEARS associated with your family search and reunion.
For almost every adopted person, reunions can be frightening, emotional, but don’t worry a bit, these fears are very normal and very, very common.
It is really the fear of the unknown, what we will find, and how all of this will affect you and your adoptive family. Reuniting over 1,000 adoptees with their biological families from Romania, we have identified many fears among the adopted person and here are a few:
The fear of being rejected again, that the family may not want to know them.
That their biological parents have died, are ill or may not be able to be found.
The possibility of the family being very poor and in high demand of need and financial help.
The fear of disturbing and affecting the new life of the biological mother that she may have built for herself.
The fear of hurting their adoptive parents, not being understood or even ending up being somehow disowned by them.
That the timing of the family search may not be right.
Fear of the language barrier, how will they understand each other and communicate along the way.
That they might discover having adopted siblings and that their reunion could lead to multiple other searches.
Fear of discovering the past generally.
The fear of finding genetic health issues within the family.